In September 2014, hundreds of LGBTQ people, Native Americans, survivors of domestic and sexual violence, political dissidents, and other sexual, ethnic, or cultural minorities found their Facebook profiles unceremoniously reported as “fake” and subsequently removed from the site or blocked, while others had their profiles changed to their legal names without their consent. Users soon learned that this was the result of a new “real names” policy, and it didn’t take long for marginalized communities to come together and advocate for the reformation of this dangerous and discriminatory policy via the #MyNameIs campaign.
Read MoreHe says all the mono-poly resources he has found say that they are too hard and don't work out. But we love each - we are each other’s soul bird - and we want to put everything into making this last.
Read MoreI'm pretty sexually fluid, but lately I only fantasize about having sex with men. My primary admitted recently he struggles more with jealousy when I'm with other men and that he only wants me to date women for the foreseeable future. Is this reasonable?
Read MoreThe best advice I have for you, Monogamist, is to cease dating immediately. Full stop. End things with your current girlfriend with compassion, intention, and transparency, telling her that you’re having serious concerns about your ability to act ethically in the relationship moving forward.
Read MoreFor more than two years, I was seeing a married man. Several months ago, his wife figured things out. We took a break while they talked. He is interested in establishing a poly-type relationship, but he is not sure his wife would be open to it. Do you think it is possible for him to establish a poly relationship out of something that started out as non-ethical non-monogamy? If so, how should he go about it?
Read MoreOne of my partners recently started dating a person they've been very into for a long time. Recently, my partner mentioned that this person would like to have sex without condoms, and ran it by me. I said no, and am feeling guilty about it.
Read MoreMany of us have been placed in a situation where we’ve felt the responsibility to perform intimacy, either out of politeness, regard for the other party’s feelings, or commitment to a greater agenda. It can feel forced, strained, exhausting and uncomfortable. Now, imagine that the person you’re stuck performing intimacy with is a different gender than the one(s) you are attracted to. Then imagine that the performing of intimacy has to extend to interacting sexually with that person. Oh, and it has to be 100% believable as an authentic connection.
Read MoreWhen was the last time you were interested in someone who wasn't comfortable with being poly, or the fact that you had other partners? How did you handle it and how did they respond? I'm wondering if they wanted to ask questions and learn more and seemed sincerely open to this new idea, or if they completely rejected the whole concept.
Read MoreIn short? Abso-posit-tively! Sexual desire fluctuates throughout our lives and is dependent on a number of variable, intersecting, and often unpredictable factors. This is as true for non-monogamous people as it is for monogamous folks.
Read MoreI've had the pleasure of knowing Mona since we worked in a domination house together back in 2013. Since then, she's skyrocketed to pornographic stardom in a time where the porn industry is struggling more than it ever has before. Don't let her flawless mainstream appearance fool you - she's as intellectual, as radical, and as queer as they come, and she's never been afraid to put her politics on full display through her work. Enjoy!
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