Here’s the thing, reader. You’re not “new to polyamory”; you’re polyamorous under duress. Which, in essence, means you’re monogamous but are being subjected to an ultimatum by a person who is taking advantage of your obvious devotion to them. That ultimatum is “polyamory or bust”. This is a manipulation, not a relationship, and it’s definitely not the kind of behavior that you want to continue greenlighting.
Read MoreI have never disliked any of my partner’s partners until now. I don’t enjoy their company, they are newish to poly and get weird and prickly at group functions which is hard on the whole polycule - but most of all I like my partner less when they are with this person. Help.
Read MoreI'm a Black woman. In a culture of #polyamorysowhite, how do I find community that's reflective of ME?
Read MoreIf your primary partner has always maintained that they have no interest in meeting the outside folks you indulge in - and you agreed to that boundary at the onset of your relationship - then trying to turn everyone into a big happy family down the road may very well prove fruitless, and you can’t very well blame your partner for that!
Read MoreA few weeks ago I made a post on Facebook asking my communities to weigh in on the challenges inherent in maintaining multiple sexual and romantic relationships while on a fixed income. Whether we want to admit it or not, the very ability to practice non-monogamy is a privilege, significantly impacted by socio-economic class.
Read MoreI spent years beating myself up, wondering what I could have done better. Recently I received an apology via email from Z, saying that she had been reacting to Q’s disclosure that her and I engaged in “mommy play”. Apparently Z was under the impression that that kind of dynamic was exclusive and special to her relationship with Q. Q had broken an agreement, and Z took it out on me.
Read MoreMy need for sex is higher than his, and I’ve been feeling like sleeping with other people if he doesn’t want to have sex with me as often, although not at the expense of our relationship. What is the best way to push this conversation along without seeming like I am trying to make someone do something they don’t want to do?
Read MoreThere’s no “right” way to do polyamory, but there are many, MANY “wrong” ways! Some of the points below are more generalized “dating red flags” that apply just as much to non-monogamy as they do to monogamy!
Read MoreThink of non-monogamy as an umbrella, and underneath the umbrella are the many "genres" of non-monogamy. These genres encompass both non-monogamous identities and non-monogamous lifestyles.
Read MoreIf living in an open relationship where there are two people and they're okay to date other people outside of their main pair, do they eventually end up having less, and less, and LESS sex with each other?
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