My girlfriend and I are poly and are both sex workers; we've recently experienced some conflict over a few things. What are some other strategies we could employ, or some self-work that I can engage in on my own to move through this particular challenge more gracefully?
Read MoreAs a response to the passing of SESTA-FOSTA on Wednesday April 11th, I began working closely with Hand of Glory Printing - an independent, sweatshop-free custom printing service - to create a limited line of pro-sex work apparel for both sex workers and allies alike!
Read MoreMy girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and by far it's the happiest, healthiest relationship I've been in. I'd never dated a sex worker before, but I trust her to make good decisions, and it's her body, her choice. What I DIDN'T take into account was whether or not I'd feel jealous about her interactions with other men (I'm a straight guy). We're otherwise monogamous, and recently she suggested opening up the relationship - allowing ME to see other people - to help ease my jealousy. Help!
Read MoreOn Tuesday April 10th, I was fired by the digital sex education platform responsible for 1/4 of my income, O.school. I had been a part of the O.School "family" since the company's inception in late 2016, and until this week had been one of their most committed and celebrated educators.
Read MoreHere’s the thing, reader. You’re not “new to polyamory”; you’re polyamorous under duress. Which, in essence, means you’re monogamous but are being subjected to an ultimatum by a person who is taking advantage of your obvious devotion to them. That ultimatum is “polyamory or bust”. This is a manipulation, not a relationship, and it’s definitely not the kind of behavior that you want to continue greenlighting.
Read MoreI have never disliked any of my partner’s partners until now. I don’t enjoy their company, they are newish to poly and get weird and prickly at group functions which is hard on the whole polycule - but most of all I like my partner less when they are with this person. Help.
Read MoreI'm a Black woman. In a culture of #polyamorysowhite, how do I find community that's reflective of ME?
Read MoreIf your primary partner has always maintained that they have no interest in meeting the outside folks you indulge in - and you agreed to that boundary at the onset of your relationship - then trying to turn everyone into a big happy family down the road may very well prove fruitless, and you can’t very well blame your partner for that!
Read MoreA few weeks ago I made a post on Facebook asking my communities to weigh in on the challenges inherent in maintaining multiple sexual and romantic relationships while on a fixed income. Whether we want to admit it or not, the very ability to practice non-monogamy is a privilege, significantly impacted by socio-economic class.
Read MoreI spent years beating myself up, wondering what I could have done better. Recently I received an apology via email from Z, saying that she had been reacting to Q’s disclosure that her and I engaged in “mommy play”. Apparently Z was under the impression that that kind of dynamic was exclusive and special to her relationship with Q. Q had broken an agreement, and Z took it out on me.
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