My girlfriend just got into sex work; does this mean we have to be non-monogamous? | I'm Poly and So Can You

My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and by far it's the happiest, healthiest relationship I've been in. I'd never dated a sex worker before, but I trust her to make good decisions, and it's her body, her choice. What I DIDN'T take into account was whether or not I'd feel jealous about her interactions with other men (I'm a straight guy). We're otherwise monogamous, and recently she suggested opening up the relationship - allowing ME to see other people - to help ease my jealousy. Help!

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I'm polyamorous under duress. Can this work? | I'm Poly and So Can You

Here’s the thing, reader. You’re not “new to polyamory”; you’re polyamorous under duress. Which, in essence, means you’re monogamous but are being subjected to an ultimatum by a person who is taking advantage of your obvious devotion to them. That ultimatum is “polyamory or bust”. This is a manipulation, not a relationship, and it’s definitely not the kind of behavior that you want to continue greenlighting.

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Polyamorous kink drama-- is there anything I can do better? | I'm Poly and So Can You

I spent years beating myself up, wondering what I could have done better. Recently I received an apology via email from Z, saying that she had been reacting to Q’s disclosure that her and I engaged in “mommy play”. Apparently Z was under the impression that that kind of dynamic was exclusive and special to her relationship with Q. Q had broken an agreement, and Z took it out on me.

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